Communicating Your Menopause Struggles Even When You Can’t Fully Understand Them

Effectively communicating your Menopause struggles while battling with physical, emotional, and psychological impact of hormonal changes can be difficult.

Introduction

Menopause is a complex and often misunderstood phase of life. Many women find themselves grappling with a whirlwind of physical, emotional, and psychological impact of hormonal changes that can be difficult to articulate, especially when they don’t fully understand what they’re experiencing themselves. 

However, effectively communicating these struggles is essential for seeking support, building empathy, and navigating this challenging period. 

Here’s how you can bridge the gap and share your Menopause journey, even when it feels confusing and overwhelming for you. 

Understanding the Basics

Before I dive into the strategies for better communication of what you’re going through, I want to acknowledge some fundamental aspects of Menopause

1. The Symptoms

First, the reality is that Menopause affects every woman differently. There are no two women who would experience Menopause in the same way. Still, there are a myriad of common symptoms including 

• hot flashes
• night sweats
• mood swings
• memory lapses
• fatigue
• vaginal dryness & atrophy 

… just naming a few (there are over 60 different “common” and “less common” symptoms)

However, the intensity and combination of these symptoms can vary widely.

2. Hormonal Fluctuations

The primary driver behind Menopause and all the symptoms is the fluctuation and eventual decline in production of Estrogen, Progesterone and Testosterone in ovaries. 

As production of these hormones in ovaries decreases, production of building blocks for “those missing” hormones is taking place in adrenal glands. These building blocks are then converted into hormones by liver and fat tissue.

This transition doesn’t happen smoothly. The changes in hormone levels can impact almost every system in the body, contributing to the diverse range of symptoms.

3. Emotional Impact

The hormonal changes can also trigger significant emotional responses, including

• anxiety
• depression
• irritability
• a sense of loss
• emotional indifference 
• intrusive thoughts 

Understanding that these feelings are part of the process can help in explaining them to others.

Note: not every woman is experiencing these emotions during Menopause 

Steps to Effective Communication

1. Educate Yourself

Begin by learning as much as you can about Menopause. The more informed you are, the better you’ll be able to explain your experiences. 

There are numerous resources available, including books, reputable websites, and support groups.

Note: if you wish you can join my Perimenopause/Menopause Support Group. My group is not just about answering your questions and eliminating your doubts, but it is also about sharing with you what has been working for me and others to not just get through Perimenopause and Menopause with fewer symptoms but also thrive during the process and beyond.

You can join us HERE

2. Be Honest About Your Uncertainty

It is okay to admit that you’re still figuring things out. If you share with your loved ones that you’re in the midst of learning this “whole Menopause stuff” and that you’re still unclear about some symptoms you’re experiencing —> this honesty can foster empathy and patience in your family and friends.

3. Use Descriptive Language

Instead of trying to label every sensation or emotion, describe them in detail. For instance, rather than saying “I feel anxious,” say “I often feel a sudden wave of nervousness that makes my heart race and my thoughts scatter.” This can help others grasp the intensity and nature of your experiences.

4. Share The Resources

Share the information you’re learning about Menopause with your friends and family.

Passing along the articles, books, or even bringing your loved ones to a doctor’s appointment can help them gain a better perspective.

5. Express Your Needs Clearly

Let those close to you know how they can support you. Whether it’s through patience, a listening ear, or practical help, expressing your needs can make it easier for others to help and assist you effectively.

6. Seek Professional Guidance

Sometimes, it helps to have a mediator. A healthcare provider, therapist, or menopause specialist (if there’s one in your area) can offer insights and facilitate conversations with your loved ones, ensuring that everyone is on the same page.

Building a Supportive Network

1. Join Support Groups

Connecting with other women going through Menopause can be incredibly validating. It provides a safe space to share your experiences, exchange tips, and offer mutual support.

You can also join my Perimenopause/Menopause Support Group. 

My group is not just about answering your questions and eliminating your doubts, but it is also about sharing with you what has been working for me and others to not just get through Perimenopause and Menopause with less symptoms but also thrive during the process and beyond.

You deserve to feel good. 

If you wish, you can join us HERE.

2. Educate Your Circle

Encourage those close to you to learn about Menopause. If your partner, family members, and friends understand what you’re going through, they will be better equipped to provide you with meaningful support.

3. Stay Connected

Your support network can be a huge help, so stay connected with them.

Keeping the communication going is the best way for them to stay informed and involved. This will reduce misunderstandings and frustrations.

Conclusion

Communicating your Menopause struggles when you don’t fully understand them yourself can be daunting. But it’s a crucial step towards building a supportive environment. 

By educating yourself, being honest about your uncertainties, and fostering open dialogue, you can bridge the gap between your experiences and others’ understanding. 

Remember, you’re not alone—reaching out for support is a sign of strength, and together, you can navigate this transformative period with greater ease and compassion.

with all my ❤️

Anna Toth

PS: you might also want to read about “Navigating Menopausal Anxiety and Heart Palpitations”